Monday, November 16, 2009
Wonderfully Beautiful
Every once and a while God brings somebody special into your life - somebody that has a unique way of making you look at things from an entirely different perspective.
Her name is Gabby. I don't really know where she came from. She just started showing up at church a few weeks ago. She sits with her grandmother on the second row to my left as I preach. She's short for her age, a little under developed physically and emotionally. She's loud. Very loud. But that's o.k. because she's beautiful . . . wonderfully beautiful.
She walks with a bit of a limp and smiles a lot. She's amazed by the simplest of things, and you are never quite sure if she has fully grasped what you're trying to say to her. Most people don't really know how to take her. If its on her mind, she's going to say it. Needless to say, her words are rarely seasoned with social graces. She will probably never make the cover of Vogue but she is beautiful . . . wonderfully beautiful.
She sits and listens intently as I preach, Sunday after Sunday about God sending His only Son to die for us. I talk about dying to self and living for Christ. I speak about gaining life by giving life away; and she listens . . . week after week she listens.
The other day her grandmother told me Gabby wanted to get baptized. I made an appointment to talk with her to make sure she was aware of what she was doing. I asked her if she knew for sure she was going to heaven when she died. She said she did. Then I asked if she were to die today and stand before God and He were to ask, "Why should I let you into heaven?" What she would say? she told me she felt sure that God would let her into heaven because she was good and helped her grandmother.
That was my opportunity. I told her how we all sin and how sin keeps us from going to heaven. I told her how there was nothing we could do to earn heaven. I told her that God was the only one good enough to deserve heaven. I told her how God loved her so much that He sent His Son, Jesus Christ, to die on the cross for her sins. I showed her in the bible how she could trust in His death, burial and resurrection and call upon the Lord and ask Him to save her. In the moments following that beautiful little girl called on a wonderful Savior and gave her life over to Him.
"Now, Gabby" I said, "If you were to die today and God were to ask you, 'Why should I let you into heaven?' what would you say?" With a sweet, little sparkle in her eye, she looked up at me and said, "Because Jesus died for me and rose again!" I was elated.
"Now we can do the baptism thing," I said, "Since you have trusted Christ, its time for you to tell the whole world what Jesus did for you when He died on that cross, was buried and rose again. Sunday morning you are going to come before the church and stand in the baptismal waters. When you are lowered into the waters you will tell every one there that Jesus died for you and how you want to be associated with his death. Then, as you are lifted up out of the waters you will be telling everyone that Jesus rose from the grave and you want to be associated with his new life." She looked a little concerned, but agreed.
The next Sunday she was there with bells on, telling everyone how she was going to be baptized that day. I introduced her to Pastor Roger, the one doing the baptisms that morning, who took her away to get prepared.
When I finished my sermon I told the congregation about a special little girl that would be following the Lord in believer's baptism. The screen slowly raised and there stood Pastor Roger and that wonderfully, beautiful little girl. She was noticeably frightened, chattering nervously. Roger tactfully quieted her and said these words: "Buried with Him into baptism (he then lowered her into the water); raised with Him unto newness of life (raising her up out of the water).
It was then I realized how wonderfully beautiful that little girl truly is. As she came up from the water she looked up at Roger and asked, "Am I dead yet?" "Am I dead yet?"
She asked him if she was dead yet! It took a few minutes for it to dawn on me. She believed that following Christ in believers baptism meant actually dying. She had believed everything I told her in a very literal way! When that wonderfully, beautiful little girl walked down those steps into that baptismal pool she actually believed she was walking to her death. Following Christ to her meant giving her life away.
"Am I dead yet?" "No honey," said Jesus "I took care of that for you a long time ago. But now my dear, you are truly alive!"
Oh that we all had faith like that! The faith of a wonderfully, beautiful child.
Friday, September 11, 2009
First Impressions
One of the greatest difficulties we face here at Blackwelder Park when it comes to welcoming our guests is the layout of our campus. Our worship center is a 50 year-old structure designed around how church was done 2 generations ago. It faces Summit Avenue and identifies itself as a Blackwelder Park Community Church. That was and ideal situation 50 years ago because that is exactly what the church was designed to be, but with the introduction of a high commuter workforce our congregation travels as much as 30 miles to attend church here today.
When we were a community church, all visitors had some connect ability to the membership before they ever attended the first service. They lived next door to each other, their kids played together, or they worked in the mill together. The world was much smaller then.
Today things are different. We still desire to stay connected as Blackwelder Park’s community church, but the people who live in this community are not as familiar with their neighbors as they once were. Today we drive home from work, press a button in our car that opens the garage door, park inside the house, close the door behind us and go into our air conditioned homes until the next morning when we press the button again and head off to work. 50 years ago, most everyone walked to work, and sat on their front porches in the evenings to stay cool. “Howdy neighbor!” was a commonly heard phrase and, as a result, neighbors became acquainted with each other. The reality is, most of our guests are not acquainted with any one when they arrive for the first time.
So, with that said, our campus layout is problematic for welcoming guests in the 21st century. Why? Because our foyer is too small and can only serve as a room where you receive a warm handshake and bulletin given in passing as you take five steps into the worship center where you find yourself “on your own.” These people who have absolutely no connection with anybody in our church receive less than a 5 second welcome greeting before they take a seat in our big, intimidating meeting place (intimidating to them, not us).
One solution to this problem would be to build an atrium on the front of our building, but the high cost of materials and labor, in conjunction with the debt we already have incurred through our last building project prohibits us from going in that direction.
We have, however, made some strides toward helping people to become better acquainted. We now offer the “Central Park” time in between Sunday School and our 11:00 service time in the Family Life Center. This is a great ministry and whoever makes it over to Central Park finds it to be a very warm and inviting place to be.
The question before us is, how do we get our first-time guests to wander over to the FLC? Truthfully speaking, they will NEVER wander over there on their own, so Central Park becomes a “Members Only Club” (not by design, but by location). For that reason, we are offering these techniques that we feel will assist you in helping first-time guests to feel welcome here at The Park.
1. Be committed to the ministry of helps. Helping people feel at home is a service to the Lord, not a service to the church, staff, pastor, or any other individual or organization. Be faithful to the calling. Arrive EARLY, not on-time. Welcoming guests happens 30 minutes prior to the beginning of service. Arriving on time is like showing up for a 1st shift job at 5:00 – the opportunity to work has passed.
2. Be aware of what is going on. As a helper your job is to assist people in feeling welcome at our church. Do not get caught up in small talk with church members to the point that when a guest enters the room you cannot break away to do your job. You are on duty and must be prepared to do what you are called to do when duty presents itself.
3. Take the time to get to know the guests on a personal level. People today see right through superficial greetings. Politeness is no substitute for friendliness in today’s world. Guests do not care how polite you are, they are more interested in how real you are. They want to see you as a real person trying to get to know them as real people. They value time spent with them far more than pleasant words in passing. They want you to try to get to know them as a person.
4. Be aware of your posture. Relax. Don’t hover over them while they are sitting in a pew. Sit in the pew in front of them and turn and talk with them. Sitting down always gives the impression that you value their company and want to offer your time to them without limitations. Lean into the conversation. By doing so you will present yourself as a warm, friendly person that is truly interested in who they are as a person.
5. Ask questions. The best way to show somebody that you value them as a person is to ask questions about who they are and what they do. Women love to talk about their families and men love to talk about their jobs. If you remember that, you will never lack for something to talk about. When you have finished asking questions, ask a few more. By doing this you will make a friend and earn the right to introduce them to other people.
6. Ask them to do you a favor. This can only be done after you have earned the right through spending time getting to know them personally. Say something like, “Hey, would you do me a favor and follow me for a second? I have something I would really like to show you.” It is best to do this while communicating some form of body language that says, “Hey, I’m fixin to go somewhere.” Do not tell them where you are going to take them until after they answer the question. When they stand up and start to walk with you, then you should tell them about this wonderful place called Central Park where we all gather together and have a great time getting to know one another. Be very mindful that this person is trusting you to protect them as they step outside their comfort zone and follow you to a very scary place. Do not leave them alone until they have met somebody new and are comfortable with your leaving.
7. Take them to the Welcome Center. This is the first place a guest should be taken and it is imperative that they feel welcomed when they arrive there. Introduce them to the Welcome Center attendants, and if they are not offered a gift by the attendant ask the attendant for one. We offer a copy of The Purpose Driven Life, a small Prayer Journal, and a Christian Music CD to all our guests.
8. Offer to get them a cup of coffee. While standing at the Welcome Center say something like, “Hey, let me get you a cup of coffee.” They might say yes, and if they do, take them over to the coffee maker and introduce them to the kitchen staff. When you walk up to the counter say something like, “Hey Gary, let me introduce you to Bob and Sarah, they are visiting with us today and I wanted them to meet you guys. While they are making small talk ask what they take in their coffee and make a cup for them. If the say something like, “no thanks, I don’t drink coffee,” don’t let that throw you off. Just respond by saying, “Oh, o.k., well let me introduce you to a few folks then,” and start walking over to the food table. Show them what is available and make the transition into step 9.
9. Hand them off to a new friend. By this time you should have a pretty good feel for their personality. Keep an eye open for someone in the crowd that would be a good hand-off person. Somebody that understands hospitality and will go the extra mile to see that the guest will feel welcome and secure. Once you have identified a hand-off person, say something like, “Oh, there’s Dave and Lisa! Come on, let me introduce you, your gonna love these guys. “ Take them over and introduce them. When you feel the handoff was successful and the guest feels secure, say something like, “Hey guys, Its been great meeting you but I’ve gotta run back over to the worship center. Hope you enjoy your coffee, and just keep an eye on that count-down clock over there. It will let you know when the service is about to start. Let me know if I can be any help in the future. See ya!
If you can successfully run a guest through all 9 of these steps you will have ensured that they feel welcome and a part of this wonderful experience we call worship.
Saturday, August 8, 2009
Has Anybody Seen Dr. Doyle?
Monday, July 6, 2009
Summertime
Well, It's official. July 4th weekend is behind us and we are "slap-dab" in the middle of summer 2009! BBQs and beach trips (that's "going to the coast" for the truly Baptist at heart), shorts and sandals (koolates for the slightly more spiritual) and a cooler full of ice cold Cheerwine (non alcoholic of course ; ) all make these days the things that memories are made of.
Thursday, May 28, 2009
Why?
Saturday, May 9, 2009
On the Job Training
I'll never forget my first job. It was a summer job working for my grandfather bailing hay on his farm in upstate NY. I couldn't have been more than 10 or 11 years old at the time. As far as I can remember, those were the most formative days in my entire life. I learned more about living the summer I spent on that farm than I did at any other time in my life.
Wednesday, March 18, 2009
3-D
I enjoy art, and the creativity that drives it. Each new concept or creation brings renewed hope and possibility to life. Art is beauty, imagination and initiative mixed together. Art explores the possibilities of life and then dares to dream. Art says yes when monotony says no. Art is courageous. It dares us to step out of the box. It is not afraid of failure.
Monday, March 16, 2009
All You Need Is Friends
I think it was John that said "All you need is Friends." I don't know it might have been Paul or George, but I am pretty confident it wasn't Ringo. Any way, I'm not much on Beetle trivia, but I do find some elements of truth in those words.
Saturday, March 7, 2009
You Can't Take it Back
Devotion. I've spent a lot of time thinking about that word this past week. It's a word that we often throw around, but quite frankly, don't fully understand the full depth of its meaning.
Monday, March 2, 2009
Let It Snow, Let It Snow, Let It Snow
Well, its been a while since the last time I had this experience. After all, I've spent the last four years of my life in the Arizona Desert.
Tuesday, February 24, 2009
Expecting Great Things
We are now three weeks into our message series on prayer, and I must say I am beginning to really see God at work. The evidences may be subtle at this point but they are evident and bear the signature of God written all over them. I hear it in the prayers our people are offering up.
Monday, February 9, 2009
The Power of Prayer
Yesterday we started our first message in a six part series on prayer. I think prayer makes all the difference. All too often, though, we neglect this great privilege and then wonder why we celebrate only a mediocre faith experience.
Wednesday, February 4, 2009
Starry Night
Saturday, January 31, 2009
Precious Memories
I grew up in a small town in upstate NY. I like to look at the expression on people’s faces when I tell them that. “You don’t sound like your from NY,” most people say as they are somewhat taken back by my comment. NY seems so vastly different than NC in the minds of most people. When I say NY they immediately start thinking about subways and skyscrapers, but that is not the NY I remember. The NY I remember was a very simple place.
My father grew up on a dairy farm in Broom County and when I was a small child my grandfather still lived out on that farm. I think my fondest memories as a child are somehow attached to that old farmhouse. It brings me back to a place that fewer and fewer people can relate to these days.
Coming into the house, you pushed back the screen door and found yourself standing on the back porch. Immediately you were reminded as to why the screen door was needed. Hanging from the ceiling was a yellowish-brown tape with a cardboard tube dangling from its bottom. Many a fly met its maker on that contraption. Those who survived the fly tape met their doom as my grandfather entertained himself by teaching me the proper use of a fly swat. The little dark spots on the wall that stood where a fly once dwelt, were like “notches on my gun.”
To the right stood a reminder of the recent past – an ice box, not long retired, patiently awaiting the day its replacement, the Kalvinator, would prove to be a only passing fad. As you entered the kitchen, a pot bellied stove and a “wood box” were the first to greet you. I loved helping Grandpa split wood. I would spend hours upon hours out back in the woodshed splitting and then carrying wood by the arm load down the hill to fill that box.
I never felt so good as I did when my grandfather would lift the lid on the wood box and brag on me by telling how I could “do more work than any two men he had ever known.” I was only eight, but to this day I believe he meant every word he said, and he said a lot of words. Some of those words would not please my mother as much when I repeated them to her, but “that’s ok, moms don’t understand that kinda stuff,” Grandpa would say. Then he would laugh. I loved to hear him laugh.
The kitchen table was 1950’s new. 4 stainless steel chairs with bright yellow vinyl seat covers surrounded a stainless steel table with a yellow Formica top. I remember that table having more stainless and chrome than a 58 Impala. Dangling directly over that table was a little white string with a little steel bell on the end. I would stand on top of the chair and pull the string. A slowly increasing glow would begin as the round florescent light fixture would start to hum out its illumination.
On my Grandmother’s Formica countertops sat a huge Kitchen Aid mixer and a one - gallon tub of Crisco shortening. A sheet of wax paper and a rolling pin lay underneath a heavy layer of freshly sifted flour. A fresh batch of sugar cookies was in the oven.
Lying on the counter beside the cast iron sink was a half-used bar of Lava soap in a rubber soap dish. I remember washing up for dinner with that Lava soap. I hated that stuff. It may have done a great Job at washing the barn off old farmers, but it took the hide off little boys. I never complained though. I didn’t want my grandfather to think I was any less than “twice the man he ever knew.”
In the corner of the dinning room sat my Grandmother’s big, black, Singer sewing machine. A yard or two of cloth lay over the shoulder of the armless manikin that was dressed with paper patterns and pins.
My least favorite room in the house was the living room. It was there that we would sit and do nothing. I mean nothing, absolutely NOTHING. I couldn’t stay there long. So I would go and explore.
I would entertain myself by swinging on the tire swing that hung from one of the two giant maple trees in the front yard. I would rummage through the tool shed, and explore the attics and barns. I would play in the hayloft and wander through the barn. It doesn’t get any better than that.
In the winter, before we would go to sleep, my grandfather would stoke the fire in the pot bellied stove and get it so hot in the kitchen that you could hardly breathe in there. Then, up the stairs we would go.
Upstairs in that house were three bedrooms. Mine had two single beds with heavy feather mattresses. Layers upon layers of blankets would be peeled back and I would crawl into the bed that would keep me safe and warm for the next eight hours. I used to love to feel the weight of those blankets against my little body. The pillows were made out of a blue and white, stripped cotton material stuffed with feathers. Nothing felt so good as to lay my head on that pillow at night. Even the occasional discomfort of rolling over onto a feather that had managed to poke its wrong end through the fabric didn’t seem to bother me. I don’t think I have had a descent night’s sleep since the last time I laid down in that bed.
These are memories. Good memories. Memories I will always cherish. As you read these memories of mine, some of you could relate. You could smell the wood burning in the stove and the sugar cookies baking in the oven. You remember the hum of the florescent light fixture and the intermittent sound of the Singer sewing machine. You remember crawling into a cold bed at night and dreading to crawl out of a warm bed in the morning. Memories are precious.
We must remember that not every reader of my memories can relate. Some have no idea of what it feels like to live how I have just described. Some might say that is a sad thing. I’ve come to a different conclusion. I believe memories are relative. The things that we hold dear are not the things that trigger our memories but the people we share our memories with. We attach significance to things and places because they are how we trigger our memories, but the true value is not in the screen doors and firewood. The true value is in who walked through those doors and kept us warm.
A younger generation may not remember the places and things we remember, but their memories can be the same, if we are willing to keep them safe and warm.
Love ya, Grandpa,
Keith
Tuesday, January 27, 2009
How Do I Comment on This Blog?
Many of you have been asking how you can post comments to the blogs @ The Park. I thought I would write a few lines about how you go about posting a comment.
Wednesday, January 21, 2009
I Love America!
I still believe in America. No matter what the world may say, or the stock market may do. I believe in America. I believe in its people, its principles and, believe it or not, its politics.
Monday, January 19, 2009
Simply Amazing
Sunday, January 18, 2009
The Cows
Ok. I had a lot of people request a copy of the email shared this morning. I did not write it, and I do not know who the author is, but here it is for you consumption. Enjoy:
An old farmer went to the city one weekend and attended a big city church. He came home and his wife asked him how it was.
“Well, said the farmer, “it was good. They did some things differently though. They sang praise and worship choruses instead of hymns.”
“Praise and worship choruses?” said his wife. “What are those?”
“Oh, there okay. They’re sort of like hymns, only different,” said the farmer.
“Well, what’s the difference? Asked his wife.
The farmer said, “Well it’s like this. If I were to say to you: ‘Martha, the cows are in the corn’ well, that would be a hymn. If on the other hand, I were to say to you:
Martha, Martha, Martha,
Oh, MARTHA, MARTHA, MARTHA,
The cows, the big cows,
The brown cows,
The black cows,
The white cows,
The black and white cows,
The COWS, COWS, COWS,
Are in the corn,
Are in the corn,
Are in the corn,
Are in the corn,
The CORN, CORN, CORN!
Then if I were to repeat the whole thing 4 or 5 times and include guitar and drum solos, well that would be a praise chorus.”
As luck would have it, the exact same Sunday, a young, new Christian from the city church attended a small country church. He came home and his wife asked him how it was.
Well, said the young man, “It was good. They did some things different though. They sang hymns instead of regular songs.”
“Hymns?” said the wife. “What are those?”
“Oh, there okay. They’re sort of like regular songs, only different.” Said the young man.
“Well, what’s the difference?” asked his wife.
The young man said, “Well, its like this. If I were to say to you: ‘Martha, the cows are in the corn.’ Well, that would be a regular song. If on the other hand, I were to say to you:
‘Oh Martha, Dear Martha, hearest thou my cry.
Inclinest thine ear to the words of my mouth.
Turn thou thy whole wonderous ear by and by
To the righteous, inimitable, glorious truth.
For the way of the animals - who can explain?
There in their heads is no shadow of sense,
Hearkenest they in God’s sun or His rain?
Unless from the mild, tempting corn they are fenced.
Yea those cows in glad bovine, rebellious delight,
Have broken free their shackles, their warm pens eschewed.
Then goaded by minions of darkness and night,
They all my mild sweet corn have chewed.
So look to that bright shinning day by day.
Where all foul corruptions of earth are reborn,
Where no vicious animal makes my soul cry
And I no longer see those foul cows in the corn.
“Then, if I were to only sing verses one, three and four, well that would be a hymn.”
Annonymous
Monday, January 12, 2009
Four Sad Faces
Today I read an article in the paper about a small church in our community closing its doors after 108 years of ministry. It was a very sad article. The photograph attached told the story, four sad faces huddled together in a large empty room. My heart could not help but ache for those people. I thought of the hard work and love they must have poured into that building over the years. I envisioned happier times in their lives when the church was brimming with young, vibrant families starting their journeys together down the path of life. I thought of weddings and baby dedications, baptisms and fellowship dinners. I heard distant voices of laughter and crying babies in the nursery. Then my eyes brought me back to the current reality these folks were facing: four sad faces huddled together in a large empty room.
I thought to myself how those folks must long for the days when children were spilling drinks on the carpet and congregants were having "discussments" concerning what songs should be played during the worship service. Oh, what they would give to have a little discomfort in that building again. . . a little challenge.
Instead, they faced a declining membership. 14 to be exact. They told a story of having enough money in the bank to finance the church for another 10 years, but seeing no point in "spending more money every month than they were taking in." They found a worthy, charitable organization, turned over their assets and met one last time together as a church family.
Sad to say, this is the state of many churches in America today. I can't help but ask myself why? Why are so many churches closing their doors when the need is so great? I think the picture tells the tale. Four sad faces huddled together in a large empty room. 108 years of tradition brought to an end.
I asked myself a question as I looked at that picture. What year is it in this picture? I could not tell. The picture was timeless. Nothing in that empty room indicated time. It was as if time had stood still. I saw no indication of time, no indication of movement and no indication of change. It was the most perfect presentation of preservation I had ever seen. Four sad faces in a large empty room. Timeless.
Selah (Think about it),
Pastor Keith
Sunday, January 11, 2009
Unimportant
Unimportance. Have you ever thought about that word? I know, it sounds like a ridiculous question; but, think about it. Why would you think about the word "unimportance." It seems, well you know . . . unimportant. There are too many important things going on in our lives to dwell on the unimportant.
But think about it for a moment. It either means something never had importance, or importance has been removed. Either way, unimportace is the absence importance.
Unimportance demands nothing of us. It brings no sense of urgency. It requires no thought. It exists successfully without calling any attention to itself. You don't even know it's there.
Unimportance is so unimportant that it doesn't even think about itself. It thinks only of others. Unimportance places significance elsewhere. It never takes itself too seriously.
Infact, unimportance has alot to be admired. If more things in this world were unimportant, more things would be considered important. Now that sounds a little on the crazy side, but humor me for a second. Unimportance places significance elsewhere making other things more important than itself. By releasing its own significance it raises the value of the surrounding world.
Oh, that we could become more unimportant.
PK
Saturday, January 10, 2009
www.thepark.cc
I am so excited to finally have our web page up and running! We now have a web presence and that means we can do so many wonderful things together as a church online. What you see is only the beginning of a fun and exciting journey that we will begin together.
This new tool will allow us to better communicate with each other and keep us informed as to what is happening @ The Park. Please browse around and look at what is currently posted. I am sure there are many of corrections that need to be made and we are looking forward to hearing from you as you make suggestions and corrections that will better enhance our web page.
There are a number of ways you can communicate those suggestions to us. The first way is to comment on this blog. I will be checking the blog site daily and will read and post comments frequently. You might even want to subscribe to this blog and the posts will then be delivered directly to your email inbox. The second way to make comments or suggestions is by contacting the church offices at theparkinfo@thepark.cc. Donna will read those emails and distribute them accordingly. A third way to express your ideas is by contacting us by telephone at the church office.
Some things to look forward to are message podcasts, free sermon resources for preachers, praise team and choir resources, and worship service videos. Please check back frequently as we will be updating the web page often.
We are so looking forward to your comments.
Peace,
PK